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Tuesday, 26 August 2014 08:41
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“If an egg is broken by outside force, life ends. If broken by inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from inside.”

So said Jim Kwik, who suffered a childhood brain injury, and has since dedicated his life to helping others learn faster and live a life of greater purpose.

Of course we all want a life of ‘greater purpose’, and maybe that is why some of us bang our heads against the sides of a giant metal egg that just can’t seem to hatch.

“I sense I am in an incubation period for something big to break out, which might be me,” writes life coach Lorraine Cohen. Author Suzanne Braun Levine calls this the fertile void, a place of preparation for something new to be birthed while living in the abyss.

She says that the term, ‘fertile void’, describes a step in the process of change, when everything seems lost and nothing yet found.

“You enter feeling broken, and you emerge feeling broken open. The process is a mission without a goal. We get impatient. We feel frantic and stuck. The unremitting unknowingness is maddening. But desperate as we are, we have to give ourselves some slack. We have to go with the flow. The solution to being stuck is being still.”

We have to let go of our addiction to busy-ness, and the urge to always know why, when, how and what. I don’t think ‘being still’ necessarily means you have to keep yourself inactive.

This reminds me of what dr Sara Gottfried said about ‘foot speed’. The concept means that your body can digest your life optimally while at a walking pace, but when you speed up too much with excess flying, driving and generally just moving too fast, you body has difficulty catching up. Sort of similar to the concept of disease as poor digestion of one’s life.

Dr Sara says that when she slowed down to nature’s pace, she started hearing her true voice again, not the pushy, striving voice that tends to get her overcommitted and depleted.

Martha Beck distinguishes between inspired action and ego-driven striving. It’s easy to tell the difference: the one feels energizing and the other can leave you exhausted. One will feel like playing and the other like a ‘should’.

In her book, ‘Finding your way in a wild new world’, Martha talks about getting ‘wordless’. The right brain is often overpowered by the logical left brain, but when you get wordless, the right brain lights up

You are wordless when you sit in silence, revelling in all of your sensory inputs, without trying to label them or judge them as good or bad. A variety of meditative states lead to wordlessness, but it is ironic that we stop meditating during frantic or unhappy times, precisely when we most need peace of mind.
Of course there is a huge difference between happiness and peace of mind. Eckhart Tolle writes that happiness depends on conditions being perceived as positive; inner peace does not.

Once you start reaching for inner peace, there’s a chance that you might stop feeling terrified of change. Although we hate to face it, life is impermanent and everything you now see as essential will one day change.

In ‘Broken Open’, Elizabeth Lesser writes: “Things do fall apart. It is in their nature to do so. When we try to protect ourselves from the inevitability of change, we are not listening to the soul. We are listening to our fear of life and death, our lack of faith, our smaller ego’s will to prevail. To listen to your soul is to stop fighting with life . . .”

Why do we think it is so important to keep things from falling apart? It’s only when you stop clinging with all your might to how you think things are suppose to be, that you can open yourself to the mystery of what will come next, to the unfamiliar.

The Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh said that people have a hard time letting go of their suffering. “Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar."

Girlfriend, if you stick with the under-whelmingly familiar, chances are that you might, at the end of your life, confront the five words nobody ever wants to face: Was that all there is?

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