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Monday, 27 July 2015 23:46
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You know that big dream you have? The one you’d especially want to come true? What if someone told you that there is a way to predict if you’ll succeed? Or how about predicting if you will even try to pursue your goal at all?

Brendon Burchard has developed a simple success indicator assessment that is based on ten factors. Consider the following questions when trying to gauge the likelihood of taking on or successfully completing any task in life:
Future identity: Is this goal relevant to the way I see myself and what I see myself doing in the future?
Intrinsic value: Is this something I am so passionate about that I would do it regardless of recognition, power, money or status?
Utilitarian value: Will I get something useful in life out of doing this?
Opportunity cost: Will this cost me so much time, energy, effort, resources and willpower that I will neglect other things that I find important?
Delay time: Will I be able to enjoy recognizable results soon?
Personal control: Can I make this happen with my own efforts?
Social support: Will people support me in attempting this?
Bandwidth belief: Will I have enough time and focus to do a good job?
Resource availability: Will I have the resources I’m going to need?
Autonomy: Will I have a feeling of being in enough control so that I can make things happen?

As with anything else in life, your answers to these questions don ’t say anything about the actual amount of time or resources you have available. They only reveal your belief about time and resource availability.

Brendon says that your success and fulfillment are going to come from your ability to believe in what other people might call impossible. He says that you shouldn’t limit your belief in what is possible by the skills you have today. What you can or cannot do today has nothing to do with whether or not you can accomplish your dream. What does matter is the skills you need to start learning.

Brendon is an American author and trainer in motivation and high performance. His interest in inspiration began after surviving a near-fatal car accident at the age of 19. This accident inspired his core teaching questions: Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?

If you had to answer these questions, what would you say? Of course we all want to matter to others, but we have no control over anybody else’s feelings. Neither should we want it.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the only thing you do have control over – your own self.

Remember, it is not how you are loved, but how you love that is important. We’ve been taught that the significant things are to be found outside of ourselves, but they’re not. They’re all inside. And they’re not set in cement, either. They’re in constant flux. That’s why life isn’t about finding yourself, as George Bernard Shaw said. “Life is about creating yourself.”

So, girlfriend, what are you going to create today? What are you going to start moving towards? What is it going to take to allow yourself to believe in the impossible?

Please distinguish between ‘possible’ and ‘perfect’. “Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end,” writes Gilda Radner.

“Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.”

I believe that you can only do this not-knowing thing if you feel passionate about that which you’re moving towards. DH Lawrence said that life is beautiful, as long as it consumes you. “When it is rushing through you . . . life is gorgeous, glorious. It’s when you burn a slow fire and save fuel, that life’s not worth having.”

Say you have to look back at your life, as Jim Morrison wrote in ‘An American Prayer’:
“The entertainment for this evening is not new, you've seen this entertainment through and through, you have seen your birth, your life, your death . . . you may recall all the rest. Did you have a good world when you died? – enough to base a movie on?”

Did you, girlfriend? The movie audience’s applause doesn’t count. You have to feel it inside yourself. Did you live? Did you love? Did you matter?


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