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Sunday, 27 September 2015 17:48
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On the occasion of The Bronberger’s 13th birthday I’d like to tell you a secret. Over the years so many people have asked us to give them a step-by-step explanation of planning a successful community publication.

The short answer is that this is the wrong question. It’s the kind of question a bank would ask you on a loan application. It is not necessary to know which steps you are going to take to make something work. The only thing you have to be clear about is what you want the outcome to be.

The how-to’s are not important. You’ll figure them out as you go along. Natalie Ledwell from ‘Mind Movies’ writes that you should never let I-don’t-know-how-to stop you from learning how. She says that success is never about your resources. It is about your resourcefulness. You have to set your fears aside and open your mind to learning what you need to know to get where you want to be.

I think one of the most important things is not to get scared when you cannot see the next step ahead of you on the path you’ve taken. Most of us prefer to see clearly, but great gifts could come from a fog.

We typically say we’re in a fog when we feel muddled and unsure of which way to turn. Madisyn Taylor writes that it sometimes takes a fog, when we cannot see outside ourselves, to get us to stop and be still in the moment, so that we may look within.

Mike Dooley agrees with the looking-within bit. He says that the “only way to get what you really want, is to know what you really want. And the only way to know what you really want is to know yourself.

And the only way to know yourself, is to be yourself. And the only way to be yourself is to listen to your heart.”

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t recognise the importance of looking without; of seeing other people’s influence on what you think you want. According to Natalie Ledwell you have to create a positive circle of influence.

“The people you choose to surround yourself with can either inspire you to create new exciting realities for yourself, or they can cripple your success by making you doubt who you are and what you’re capable of.”

So, be mindful of who you spend time with. Watch how they frame what they believe in. Madisyn explains this as follows: Every value you hold dear is an expression of either opposition or support. For example, you can spend your energy on promoting peace or on speaking out in opposition to war.

This appears to be two methods of expressing the same value, but being for something is way morepotent than being against something. Being against something is easy. Standing up for something carries with it the power of constructive intent.

And of course this could be scary – if not for you, then for the people around you who might feel challenged by whatever it is you’re standing up for or reaching out for. Reaching for a dream “that doesn’t challenge the dreamer to become more than they’ve ever been, to go where they’ve never gone, and to feel things they’ve never felt, is actually like wishing for a giant life-snooze button,” says Mike.

“Wanting abundance without an exchange of services . . . is like wanting an aquarium without fish, a leash without a dog, or a frame without a picture.”

It means that you have to be willing to work for your dream. No, not in the sense of the puritan work ethic, sweat-of-your-brow kind of thing. It is because the work is the joy, the journey, the way, as in the hippy quote, “There is no way to peace; peace is the way”.

I’m not saying that hard work is going to guarantee financial success. Life coach Martha Beck says that hard work won’t get you to the life you want. Neither will good grades, connections or luck.

She says that in her experience, two things combine to enable success. Freedom from fixed ideas, which opens our attention to a subtle source of guidance that seems to come from within. I believe that sometimes you hear it better when you cannot see ahead.

Listen for that inner whisper, girlfriend. Listen closely. Then follow it.


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